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graceboy

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i really want to share this experience because i really think this can be coman health problem between us .
I am doing programming since 2 years and before i do hacking stuff like phishing keylogging , ddos this kind of stuff . i am 20 years old and in past i thought depression can be only happen to older people . Now my life style is bad i really work on computer so much 15 to 20 hrs sometime or 10 hrs . i have no social life and i can say no friends and because of my depression maybe i feel all people around me is bad people and i should make distance with them . when i was 12 years old i started playing cricket and i am good at cricket and i played for distict and when i was 16 years old i stopped playing cricket cause i failed in my 9th standard.Then i started programming and i hacking facebook accounts and vps my social life is completely over . Now i started to meet new people and try to make new friends and playing SO its really making my life good 

If you feel depressed or alone Just doing so much work Just Save some money in bank for bad time and enjoy your life 
I have some points to fight with depression

1.Make new friends dont just chat in facebook or whatsapp meet them.
2.if you have friends which you dont like just talk with them dont be alone just make use of them.
3.Drink lot of water it will really low your anixety
4.Have faith in others .
5.Enjoy your life . 
6.Dont be afraid of death . You will get new life Trust Me!
7.And your parents is always with you and want you to be happy so you dont need anyone! 



i know its really not game development post but i really want to help people who are having depression or aniexty 

Sorry for bad english 
 
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Hi Graceboy! Thanks for the nice post! I do agree with the overall message but some things I disagree with:

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2.if you have friends which you dont like just talk with them dont be alone just make use of them.

If you have friends that are "negative", then I think it's best to distance yourself - negativity is contagious. The world has a lot of people - you can find new friends.

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6.Dont be afraid of death . You will get new life Trust Me!

Not to get all epistemological, but how do you know this? Also, even if there were no afterlife, why would that make death scary? After all, you won't be able to experience it, just like the billions of years before you were born - they weren't "scary" right? Also, thinking that afterlives exist sort of devalues the current life, since you get less incentive to work on your life, and live it to the fullest, since "you will get another one so why bother right?"

regarding the overall message of fighting depression, I have found that the following things really help:
1. Exercise
2. Extreme sports like skydiving/bungee jumping - they totally change how you think and get you out of that mindset.

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Hey,

Good post graceboy, depression and anxiety are really common in our industry - even more so for indie developers. Personally I try to limit my time on a computer to about 8-10 hours a day - I don't work (much) on weekends. I exercise (but not as much as I should do recently). I also try and make sure I have a lot going on in my life that isn't related to work, games or computers.

The difficulty with indiedev is that you have a massive work load (pushing you to work harder and longer), you often struggle to make money (adding stress and meaning it's difficult to be able to pay for fun distractions) and you're mainly working on your own not moving about.

I've found that to start with getting a good work/life balance is a chore, you need to be strict and force yourself to do things, but eventually it becomes second nature and you feel able to stop work without guilt and really enjoy those things you do in your free time.

Cheers,
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graceboy

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bestgamesstudio - Your right we should make distance from negative friends but in my opinion i use them like i go outside being alone is better to enjoy some time with negative people not like drug addicts but who do bitching jealous from you 

After life logic is Simple What you eat it became your part for example when people die we burn them they turn into soil then we grow plants from that soil and we eat that plants or we eat animals who ate plants from that soil so when wen we do sex sperm or anything genrate from food so its life cycle 
Maybe my english is difficult to understand but thats what i  find preety logical.

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I started exercise and i should say try to Meditation for 1 hour but Remember if your work needs to get angry with people when they dont work according to your expection so dont do Meditation because people who do Meditation correctly then really dont get angry in even worst situations....
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After life logic is Simple What you eat it became your part for example when people die we burn them they turn into soil then we grow plants from that soil and we eat that plants or we eat animals who ate plants from that soil so when wen we do sex sperm or anything genrate from food so its life cycle

Well, this proves that matter is reused. However, if I were to take a hard drive with some files, re-melt it into something else several times, the information on it would not be preserved. Same goes for the brain.

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I started exercise and i should say try to Meditation for 1 hour but Remember if your work needs to get angry with people when they dont work according to your expection so dont do Meditation because people who do Meditation correctly then really dont get angry in even worst situations....

This is great! Also, if you do need to "get angry", I find meditation actually helps since you can control yourself and go into a "controlled anger"


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Hey graceboy, i think sometimes everyone got bad feelings about the world around us, the thing that helped me getting my brain not into anything like depression is self improvement from this youtube channel, because having a sweet loving girlfriend improves your live a lot :



He also got some videos on his channel about depression and how to improve your life, really good youtube channel.
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Thanks Hello World Thanks for share i will watch these videos . i am so much happy to see in this community people like you,Grumpy,bestgamesstudio,authwobe and specially Martin who is helping so much new people and he is the reason we all meet in this lovely forum.
I will also share if i find anything helpful i beleive indies devs are one family who have small offices with big ideas for changing thier life at there own power.
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From my experience as a indie dev, i believe it's essential to reward yourself for a good work . It greatly helps you to keep motivated and work even harder [smile] 

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The best fix for depression IMO is drinking a lot of water. I try to drink at least a gallon of water each day. It is really hard to be depressed when you are taking a piss, trust me [rofl]
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